Saturday, 6 February 2016
Saturday, 2 January 2016
Be Happy New Year 2016 Formula
Harvard University Recommended 20 happy habit
1. Be grateful.
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes…
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
2. Choose your friends wisely.
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
3. Cultivate compassion.
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.
4. Keep learning.
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
5. Become a problem solver.
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.
6. Do what you love.
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.
7. Live in the present.
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.
8. Laugh often.
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
9. Practice forgiveness.
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.
10. Say thanks often.
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.
11. Create deeper connections.
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.
12. Keep your agreement.
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
14. Focus on what you’re doing.
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!
15. Be optimistic.
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.
16. Love unconditionally.
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.
17. Don’t give up.
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.
18. Do your best and then let go.
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.
19. Take care of yourself.
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.
20. Give back.
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.
Tuesday, 29 December 2015
With 2015 fast closing its curtain upon us, I reflected on the year. Well, in fact - on the last one and half years.
I still clearly remember sitting across Karma Yangchi at the restaurant, persuading her to accept my gift. (I failed). And so, I changed track and asked her instead, to weave something and I help her sell. (Hoo..I succeeded).
And then so many things happened. All I know is scarfs followed me home to Hong Kong, followed me to my trip to Shanghai, Malaysia, Singapore as I distributed them around. Just as I thought - phew - I have done my job and about to wipe my brow - suddenly, more scarfs were ordered. And more. And then more. And still more!!! Even my husband started to ask "Do your friends eat scarf?" (as he saw the boxes of scarfs arrive - one after another, from summer to winter and back to summer)
But you know whats really nice? It is not only scarfs that arrived. The best kind of people turned up to. Be it old friends, friend of friends, new friends, complete strangers - suddenly they appear in my life and say "Lets talk. I want to help".
My reflection? This must be what it feels like to have good Karma come along. Because she brings the best people to you when she appears.
(PS Why I spell Scarves as Scarfs. Simple. When I spelt it Scarves, some people don't know what it is. I am not kidding!!!!!! So I spelt it Scarfs ...an old fashion way to spell. Why not, we are doing things the old fashion way here. Slowly, nicely, lovingly, carefully)
Photo : Karma and me in Thimphu in November 2015 - by Allan Yeung.
Wednesday, 23 December 2015
10 Days 9 Nights in Bhutan
(with pre and post stops in Bangkok)
HK based tour operator - Co-op Travel Education Centre for your Bhutan trip
Betty / Yolanda at +852 2541 5094 firstname.lastname@example.org
The Tour Operator is Coop Travel Education in Hong Kong
The tour on Easter 24 March departure is now closed
(A small note:
Ana by Karma is not connected to Coop Travel -
they are a licensed travel agent and will help you
make arrangements to come to our volunteer programs)
Tuesday, 22 December 2015
Friday, 11 December 2015
Saturday, 28 November 2015
THE ART OF GIVING
How we give makes a world of difference to the recipient.
Charity, whilst is a traditional way to give, it sometimes create cruel dependency. The recipient gets a respite from life's harshness but not necessarily a ladder to climb out of it. And needs more help. And more.
In contrast, when we give with a clear mission to empower, to enable, a different story emerges. The recipient not only gets a respite, but a ladder to progress in life. And with the same ladder, he or she can also help others in the same plight to move up in life.
Such is our story of Ana by Karma for Bhutanese weavers.
Karma, whom a year ago, was struggling to make ends meet, today has not only overcome financial difficulties, but herself is a giver of hope. She has trained dozens of illiterate poor weavers to form a community.
The one who received help is now helping. This is the real art of giving. Empowering the recipient to be part of your team to give. Imagine that. Imagine the impact as we give more, we get more givers!
This Christmas - give the most meaningful gift to your family and friends - our hand made scarf - whilst giving Karma and her team the best gift too - empowering them to be givers in future.
Check Karma's handmade scarves at:
Photo on bottom: Karma meeting Helen Pu from China who selflessly helped the team of weavers even when Helen has not met them before
Wednesday, 22 July 2015
Many believe that we are the one who helped the poor illiterate weavers in Bhutan to earn money they never could have without our involvement. That's true but not the whole truth. Truth is we helped unleash the potentials stored within them. They could always make beautiful things with their hands, they were just not connected to the world that appreciates such beauty and colour of the handmade scarfs
Tuesday, 21 July 2015
A POOR ILLITERATE WOMAN TAUGHT US A LESSON
What was meant to be a donation of US$200 for one poor illiterate woman morphed into a social enterprise in Bhutan. Ana by Karma Social Enterprise Bhtutan has 70+ weavers proudly earning through sale of their handmade scarfs.
Back then, I made an assumption – the poor benefits from our money, our donation. No. Not true. Karma- the Bhutanese weaver who never went to school, she wants an opportunity, a chance to showcase her talent, the dignity of earning her own keeps. Doesn’t that sound like what you and I want too?
The last thing Karma wanted was my offer of US$200 to buy her a sewing machine.
Looking back, I am glad she vehemently and repeatedly refused my “gift”, my donation. By doing so, Karma taught me a great lesson that day. It was so easy of me to drop a donation in the box and walk away. Not all the poor want our money, definitely not our sympathy. What they truly benefit from are our gift of ideas, time and our vast network.
In Karma’s spirit of dignity, one thing our social enterprise has consistently and vehemently uphold is -- > ZERO $$ donation. ZERO. Ana by Karma is a business. Not a charity.
Any money we receive, we earn it. Just like any commercial business. The only difference is, we are a business with a heart. At the heart of our enterprise is a group of Bhutanese women weavers who are given the opportunity to become financially independent through their own beautiful work. In fact the women weavers are encouraged to think of themselves as entrepreneurs in the fashion industry!
And if you really wish to “donate”, please donate to us your time, your expertise, your ideas as these are the tools of their empowerment. And that is the lesson I learnt from Karma.
Charity - the act of giving money, food, or other kinds of help to people who are poor, sick, etc, people in need.
A social enterprise is a business created with a social purpose and operated in a financially sustainable way. http://www.nesst.org
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